MYTH: You can’t control your emotions. If you’re a worrier, you’re a worrier and there’s nothing you can do about it.
Dr. Charles W. Mayo, cofounder of the world-renowned Mayo Clinic, said, “Worry affects the circulation, the heart, the glands, the whole nervous system, and profoundly affects the health. You have never known a man who died from overwork, but many who died from doubt.”
You were not born a worrywart. You did not slide from the womb gripped with worry. The feeling of being worried is a learned response you can unlearn. Understand that it is you who are choosing to worry. No one makes you worry—not your children, spouse, friends, neighbors, or relatives. It is solely your decision to worry, and it cannot add one single second of peace or joy to your life. However, if you decide that peace and joy serve your higher purpose, then choose them. Replace the word worry in your thoughts and in your speech with the word peace or joy or whatever works for you. When you catch yourself saying, “I’m so worried,” declare instead, “I’m so peaceful.” From this expanded, peaceful state, you attract empowering acceptance and viable solutions for all challenges and concerns. If your thoughts are peaceful and positive, your solutions will be as well.
We always choose our every thought and feeling whether we realize it or not. The reason most people don’t own their choices or take responsibility for them is because they aren’t aware they are making choices. They are, in effect, unconscious creators stuck in a mindset. They are stuck in the personality, emotions, and choices the mind set for them, forged through a patterned response to past experiences. In other words, if in your past someone close to you repeatedly told you (or demonstrated through their fears) that climbing tall structures was extremely dangerous and a fall could result in your death, you may develop a fear of heights. Your mind can’t imagine there is anything beyond the Earth Adventure, because your mind does not imagine—it compares, judges, and recalls. To the mind, “death” is to be avoided at all costs. In this case, it will view anything that doesn’t keep your feet solidly on the ground as a real threat to its existence. If you try to climb a ladder, your mind will move to keep you put through the physical symptoms of dizziness, nausea, clammy hands, and if all fails, the feeling of blacking out.
Again, the true you is not confined to the limits of the mind; however, if you do not remember this you cannot make conscious choices. Essentially, you limit the scope of your experiences. Remember now that you are not a limited being. You are not bound by anything other than what you deem to be your limits.
Awareness and conscious choices help us see that we are all-powerful and not victims. For example, don’t “think” yourself crazy. Decide that if you desire the feeling of crazy and choose it, then it serves you. Do not hate, reject, deny, or dismiss anything that shows up in your life. Acceptance of what is enables you to face facts and move into your powerful core essence or the true you—the birthing center of all inspiration, strength, and peace. Acceptance dissolves fear and its many offspring such as anxiety, worry, depression, anger, tension, and so on. Without acceptance of what is, you cannot be the master of your universe. You will continue to create every experience unconsciously. You will see yourself as a victim of circumstances, other people, and your emotions. You will not gain the insight that it is you who are choosing and creating your reality.
All negative emotions, such as fear, anxiety, bitterness, hatred, envy, jealousy, resentment, and worry, are toxic because they interfere with the body’s balance, function, and natural state of well-being. All emotions live on in your mind and body as memories long after whatever source triggered their being. One way you keep negative emotions alive is through the little stories you run in your head. Often these stories play in your mind for hours, even days at a time. For instance, a worry story may sound something like this: If only my spouse would’ve listened to me and stayed home tonight. What if the weather turns bad and it starts to snow? What if the road gets icy and the car ends up in the ditch? What if no one finds my person? They could end up dead. What would I ever do without my person? Oh why, oh why didn’t my person listen to me?
Now the person thinking these worrisome thoughts may be lying in the comfort of a nice warm bed, yet the only thing real to the person while in the clutches of worry (or any negative emotion) is the false story in their mind. Let go of the story! Let go of everything that is not real. Accept what comes your way, then decide and choose your response. That’s the quickest path to freedom from the false limits imposed by the mind.